今年家里老大上维州4岁的kinder了, 他2岁多的时候因为搬家给他去看过新家附近的几家community preschool, 其中有一家的3岁班入学截止日期是12月31日, 从那个时候开始关注和了解是否要给孩子延迟一年上小学的问题. 最近在坛子里看到很多相关问题的帖子, 我就把我了解过的一些事实和相关书籍和调查再写出来和大家分享一下吧. 以前其实也写过一个帖子的, 主要以理论为主, 有兴趣的可以点开来看:
去年的帖子: 关于school readiness 我所知道的干货
http://www..com.au/bbs/f ... ead&tid=1327530
好了, 理论我都有了, 但是上个月开始我做决定, 是否要给儿子报名明年的小学的时候 , 我还是彷徨犹豫了一阵子的, 基本上每次去托儿所接儿子, 都抑或旁敲侧击抑或直接地询问老师我儿子是否 ready for school 的问题. 现在我已经给儿子报好小学了, 我来分享一下我认为比较重要的几个点吧:
1. 听听老师怎么说
我是相信专业人士的意见的, 前提是对方比较有经验你们也彼此信任. 刚好今年我儿子遇到的kinder老师就是这样的一位专业人士, 所以我选择听取老师的意见. 老师说他准备好了, 我就给他去报名. 下半年会去小学的orientation, 到时候我也会询问小学的老师, 我儿子的表现是否足够成熟, 有没有需要再多读一年kinder. 两方都说ok,我就放心了.
我觉得如果kinder的老师和学校方面有一方说孩子不够成熟, 那家长自己权衡; 如果双方都说孩子不成熟, 那肯定是留一年对孩子比较好.
2. 孩子所在的kinder & 要去小学的类型
相对来说我接触过的家长都说community preschool 的老师更加专业性强一些, 经验也更丰富, 所以她们给出的意见更需要看重;而有些cc kinder program的老师相对没有那么专业一些, 对他们的意见, 家长可能更多会持保留意见. 当然这不是绝对的, 我儿子去的就是后者, 我根据对老师的了解和信任就选择听取她的建议.
公校本身自己对学生几乎就是没什么选择余地的, 可以说是来者不拒, 成熟的, 不成熟的, 只要生日没超过法定的截止日, 都是要收进来的. 但是教会小学和私立学校就会有选择权, 所以小月龄的家长更容易听到对方建议孩子不成熟, 最好让孩子晚一年上学. 在维州很多私校对男孩子的截止日期, 直接就是12月31日, 而不是4月30日, 家长是没得选的.
其实第2点和第1点是相关的, 家长听到不同的老师的意见时要全面地来看.
3. 作为家长, 你对孩子在小学头2,3年的期望值是什么? 你能给孩子提供多少课后的帮助和辅导?
希望孩子自信愉快地融入吗?晚一年吧
想给孩子更多挑战并且能够提供充裕的课后帮补吗? 那按时上吧
P.S. 为什么看楼主分析了那么多, 我还是一团乱麻呢? 你还打算要老二吗, 如果看完我的分析,还是觉得一团乱麻, 难以抉择, 那怀老二的时候请一定掐好日子, 让孩子的生日在5月到12月吧.
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是啊，生孩子还要掐好时间
在新州是8月-11月为佳
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我两个孩子都无意地生在比较好的月份
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为什么12月不好呢？
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恩，因为12月的很纠结，比他们小一个月（有时候一天）的孩子都可以选择晚上一年学，而他们不能。
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唉，看完心揪在一起啊……
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真的是这样啊。。。。。
等到孩子要上学了才悟出来这个道理，显然已经晚了。。。。。
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哈哈, 我本来还想写5-10月的呢. 怕引起不必要的恐慌, 所以没写
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无所谓吧，反正澳洲的小学教育就是玩耍
华人和私校除外
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还是有关系的我觉得, 主要是因为澳洲入小学的绝对年龄太小了. 而且一直有看到报道, 现在有些学校的prep 对小学新生的学术能力要求越来越高了, 也是家长越来越多让孩子晚一年上学的原因. 我在不止一篇报道里看到校长说现在澳洲的小学prep和10年以前的已经大不一样了.
澳洲的小学教育就是玩, 是一种刻板印象, 见仁见智的.
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我前面说的后面还一句呢，华人和私校除外
华人多的学校和私校，更接近华人的教育理念，补习、刻苦、将来要有出息
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出生在1-7月的孩子也没事的，虽然有点矛盾，但好歹自己可以选择，大不了多读一年CC呗～
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楼主会不会无意中消灭了一波天蝎座
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为什么是天蝎座啊, 天蝎是11月份的呀.
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看8楼写的，5至10月份。。。。
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哈哈, 12月的星座也是
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也有家长选华人少的学校的. 现在墨尔本私校小学的华人比例也越来越高了.
80后小夫妻, 家庭条件好的真是一抓一把.
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Ready or Not?
Readiness for school is in itself an important factor for consideration before starting school, despite the responsive and adaptable programs that schools provide for children and the emphasis upon individualising learning for each child.
Readiness is not about schools just adapting and attempting to meet the needs of children. International research emphasises that certain areas of development and maturity are essential for children so that once at school, they are able to maximise the opportunities provided.
Social and emotional areas are the key areas of development that are most important for a child in regard to school readiness. This is in contrast to what many people believe - reading, writing and knowing colours or numbers are NOT readiness indicators. Some schools may suggest this is necessary, however this is only a reflection of a particular schools position and not reflective of a child’s readiness for school.
The key areas of social and emotional maturity related to school readiness can be summarised by reviewing these questions. At preschool does your child .....
1. Separate easily from parent / carer at preschool drop off
2. Independently make a decision of where they are going to work / play
3. Self initiate, engage and sustain engagement (6 – 8 minutes), have the skills to solve basic problems and ask for help from the educator if needed
4. Work and play besides other children
5. Have basic independence skills (able to put shoes and socks on, art smock on, toileting independently)
6. Sit with the group (eg mat time) and remain focused, ask questions and answer questions from the educator
7. Self regulate their emotional response when they need to do something they don’t want to (eg don’t tantrum when it is time to pack up)
The importance of these skills related to school readiness is highlighted when one imagines a class of twenty school children who do not have these skills. The good news is that most children when they start school have these skills; unfortunately however there will be some children who start school and do not have these skills. This is why making informed decisions about children and school readiness is paramount to giving children the opportunity to thrive and flourish ....not just cope.
The following information may help guide parents when making their decision related to when to start their child at school.
• If you already have a child in childcare or 3- or 4-year-old kindergarten, the qualified kindergarten teacher, alongside the parent, is usually the most able to appropriately assess a child for readiness. Preschool field officers, most often attached to local governments can provide additional information and assessment to children at no charge in the funded 4-year-old program and private consultants can also conduct assessments for a cost.
• Given the difficulty in having two years of funded Kindergarten in Victoria, families are being encouraged to plan ahead in determining when they would like their child to commence school. Obviously, we cannot know at the age of 1 or 2 years if a child will be ready, but there is some useful information that may help some families in the planning process.
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• Young boys, according to some research, may benefit from having an additional year to mature before commencement.
• Multiple births or children significantly premature may also benefit.
• Remember that Victoria has one of the youngest age entries into school of anywhere in the world.
• Ask yourself, “am I in a rush to send my child to school?”.
• There is no detrimental impact of giving a child an additional year, in fact it is often viewed as a bonus year.
• Don’t assume children will magically ‘catch up’ once they start school. In the majority of cases, they don’t, and in fact the problems in maturity usually become more pronounced.
• Don’t send a child to school already thinking they can repeat prep if they have to. We want the first year of school to be exciting, successful and not just one where the child attempts to ‘cope’ and then has to do it all again.
• Readiness for school or kindergarten is about having the maturity to make the most of these early years.
• Being legally ready to start school does not mean the child will be ready and does not mean that the child
must start school at that time
• For further information see the book, Ready Set Go by Kathy Walker which has a number of chapters related to readiness, preparation and choice of school or speak to your local kindergarten teacher.
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我去找找这本书，谢谢！
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小虎家的小A，我印象中就是小生日的，一样出色
所以要具体情况具体分析
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辛苦了, 打这么多英文. 我一开始就是看这本书开始了解起来的.
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强烈支持最后一句
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我也不知道我孩子是幸运还是不幸运，她7.31出生的。。新州
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小A是三月份，还不算特别小。不过我们几年下来在学校里确实很少碰到比我们更小的男孩。看来男孩晚读一年是共识。这个也很好理解，大部分人会选择保守和安全的方案。小虎思虑比较细，给小A报名上学之前也咨询了很多人（包括他自己）才做的决定。
对我们来说是正确的选择，不能再晚一年了。孩子没有任何不适应。和比他成熟稳重的孩子一起更有利于他的成长。—以上是个案，父母最了解自己的孩子，是关键决策人，其他人无法替代做决定的。
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“进可攻退可守”多好！
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所以我把私校和华人多的学校归为一类
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确实挺纠结的。尤其是在低年级的时候，差半年的话娃们在智力体力上还是区别还是非常大的。
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我家孩子维洲的 7月生 到时候上学肯定是班里比较大的孩子了
我觉得挺好的啊
男孩子 本来就晚熟 去早了跟不上怕影响他的自信心
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我也认为上学不只是跟着老师学习，更是peer之间的互相学习。
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