在新西兰
剛看了一個帖子關於孩子在學校被欺負了,要去學功夫自衛。
我本身很喜歡功夫,孩子學功夫健體防身也沒錯,關鍵是我們做家長的如歌正確處理孩子在學校被欺負的case, 怎樣引導他們正確使用功夫。
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- 小孩爲什麽去學功夫?
- 小孩學了功夫應該怎樣正確引導?
- 小孩在學校被欺負該怎樣處理?
- 家長在家庭和學校的教育之間應該扮演什麽角色?
我們做家長的怎樣回答上面的問題?
歡迎大家討論,各抒己見。
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我认为孩子之间的世界,是一个和成人不同的世界,要鼓励孩子自信,坏同学欺侮他,就要打回去,同时还要告诉老师和其他人真相。
再就是,孩子自己的事情,自己解决!自己Duei 返系
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发觉学功夫有点不实际。遇着个SB还给人打回来,招架不住。哎。。。
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哎,如果被欺負的時候就動手反擊,即使是男孩子也會對身體造成更大的傷害,何況是女孩子?關鍵是對孩子日後的成長不利,大人之間也不能“有仇必報”啊。。。。
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尽量的原谅他人,尽量的不生气,但是每个班级都有极个别有什么haHd的大概是神经功能失调多动失控的孩子(这个病nz很多),只会围着老实孩子烦
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是的是的,真的是這樣哦!!
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我就是其中一个。。。。好噶哈哈哈
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哈哈哈。。。我都估到啦。。。。
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上面的人说,学童版没有那么多人,三个版主已经很多了,不肯再增加一个。
看来,我们还要努力啊!~~
学童版一定要强大起来,一定要让更多人关注子女教育问题。
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嗯,不要緊,我們努力吧
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好! 一起努力~~~
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不好意思,歪楼啦
我转了一篇英文的文章,里面给的一些建议,都非常好,非常实用
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The key to helping kids is providing strategies that deal with bullying on an everyday basis and also help restore their self-esteem and regain a sense of dignity.
It may be tempting to tell a kid to fight back. After all, you're angry that your child is suffering and maybe you were told to "stand up for yourself" when you were young. And you may worry that your child will continue to suffer at the hands of the bully.
But it's important to advise kids not to respond to bullying by fighting or bullying back. It can quickly escalate into violence, trouble, and someone getting injured. Instead, it's best to walk away from the situation, hang out with others, and tell an adult.
Here are some other strategies to discuss with kids that can help improve the situation and make them feel better:
Avoid the bully and use the buddy system.
Use a different bathroom if a bully is nearby and don't go to your locker when there is nobody around. Make sure you have someone with you so that you're not alone with the bully. Buddy up with a friend on the bus, in the hallways, or at recess — wherever the bully is. Offer to do the same for a friend.
Hold the anger.
It's natural to get upset by the bully, but that's what bullies thrive on. It makes them feel more powerful. Practice not reacting by crying or looking red or upset. It takes a lot of practice, but it's a useful skill for keeping off of a bully's radar. Sometimes kids find it useful to practice "cool down" strategies such as counting to 10, writing down their angry words, taking deep breaths or walking away. Sometimes the best thing to do is to teach kids to wear a "poker face" until they are clear of any danger (smiling or laughing may provoke the bully).
Act brave, walk away, and ignore the bully.
Firmly and clearly tell the bully to stop, then walk away. Practice ways to ignore the hurtful remarks, like acting uninterested or texting someone on your cell phone. By ignoring the bully, you're showing that you don't care. Eventually, the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother you.
Tell an adult.
Teachers, principals, parents, and lunchroom personnel at school can all help stop bullying.
Talk about it.
Talk to someone you trust, such as a guidance counselor, teacher, sibling, or friend. They may offer some helpful suggestions, and even if they can't fix the situation, it may help you feel a little less alone.
Remove the incentives.
If the bully is demanding your lunch money, start bringing your lunch. If he's trying to get your music player, don't bring it to school
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哈哈,LZ的是女儿吧。女性之间的欺负更多的是EMOTIONAL上的伤害,而不是PHYSICAL的,其实校园欺凌更大的伤害在精神层面而不是身体方面。而一本TI IS NOT OK书上指出新西兰的BULLYING是比较普遍的,原因在于新西兰HAVE LOW TORLERANCE TO DIFFERENCE. 校园欺凌严重的可以导致DEPRESSION甚至自残和自杀。
大家感兴趣的可以去图书馆借阅这方面的书,有一本专门给家长看的ANTIBULLYING ACTION BOOK还不错。多用一些知识武装自己,如果遇到问题的就不会束手无策。
我研究这个问题并不是因为我的孩子遭遇过这个问题,而是因为看过一个关于校园欺凌的纪录片,十分震撼,又对MENTAL HEALTH比较感兴趣。新西兰的青少年问题比较严重,而校园欺凌会在青少年期到达巅峰,18岁后递减。
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嗯,year 2 的小女孩在學校有時候也會受到肢體上的侵犯。
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在学校发生找老师谈谈
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必须找老师!
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對
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if not a big deal just leave it for kids to sort, ie. my girl would tell that boy hey I don't like it. if you touch me again I'll report to miss/mrs xxx.....
depends how big the issue is. of course the parents should visit the school if necessary but never advise the kid to fight back....
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which SB? get away from fighting, kongfu is good for your body build.
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哎,醉汉啊!!!还有脑子不太正常的人,走在街上真的要打醒精神的。懂你的意思。这可以去做gym啊
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做gym挺好,鍛煉肌肉,但跑步還是必須在外面跑。
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哈哈。。。。。。。。。。。。。
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支持支持
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淇淇, 沒有什麽觀點要表達嗎?
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你家是女儿这个确实是不错的办法,不过如果是小男生被欺负了只会说“I will report to ....”估计会引来始作俑者更多的嘲笑,对孩子的自尊心也是个伤害,是个不好解决的问题。。。
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嗯,要我来说2句啊。。。对于孩子受欺负这类事,我现在还是蛮淡定的了。。。因为我一般不会那么激动的了,会先了解一下,到底是什么事引起的,。。。说实话,我儿子在学校还真不惹事的,很早前,有个孩子会欺负我儿子,但那个是我朋友的孩子,我们大人之间也对这事交流了看法,我表述没有恶意的伤害,就让孩子们自己去调整,我们大人,不会因为这些小事,去伤和气的。。。现在孩子都大点了,是好朋友啊。。。我还时常给那个小捣蛋做好吃的,他对我很好,老是给我拥抱的嘞。。。对于孩子学点功夫,我不觉得我就要让孩子去对方同学了,我和我老公的想法就是,起到自卫作用,同时锻炼身体吧。。。我确实还没有遇见过,很无理取闹的孩子。。。要是有的话,我会让孩子别接近就是了。。。其实同时也教会孩子大度点呀。。。没啥好争的,回家都可以有呗。。。
問題 --
1.小孩爲什麽去學功夫?
答:自我保护,锻炼身体
2.小孩學了功夫應該怎樣正確引導?
答:不要随意出手。
3.小孩在學校被欺負該怎樣處理?
答:先了解情况,看问题的尺度。。。适当跟老师交流一下,或跟对方的家长通个气。
4.家長在家庭和學校的教育之間應該扮演什麽角色?
答:一般顺其自然,如有特别事件,会积极配合
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哈哈哈~~被打了就要打回去~~输了活该~~
女汗子也是这样养成的~~
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我覺得如果是男孩,需要家長及時介入,有可能需要雙方家長(欺負和被欺負)和學校三方共同討論和解決問題。武力fight back 只會越來越糟。學校凌辱事件層出不窮,其中有一個原因就是 fight back。
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近乎我想的標準答案,供各位家長參考!
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3.小孩在學校被欺負該怎樣處理?
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4.家長在家庭和學校的教育之間應該扮演什麽角色?
答:一般顺其自然,如有特别事件,会积极配合